Monday Memo| Detail No.98| April 22, 2024

Hi,

It's a brand new Monday to increase our productivity and focus.

Shall we? Yep!

Have you ever felt like you’re watching from the sidelines while others get to play the game of life.

Maybe you have always wanted to join in too but felt too shy, too awkward, too … INHIBITED!

On today's memo, we attribute persons, things, thoughts, actions and activities that decreases the rate of or stops completely the ignition of our lives to—inhibitors.

Are you stuck with unhelpful mindset characterized by inhibitors— self-doubt,negativity, anxiety, strife, passivity as well as an underdeveloped skill set.

Today's memo is a CALL FOR ACTION! It's simply clamoring — Say “Yes” to life and snatched up opportunity after opportunity and experience after experience.

You need to see through limiting beliefs and step through that imaginary glass wall. It might be a difficult undertaking it worth it.

Here are the five main things that help you liberate yourself from Inhibitors:

1.Don’t Believe Your Inhibitory Thoughts

This is HUGE! Just because you think something doesn’t mean that it’s true. It also doesn’t mean that it’s helpful or something we should act on.

Old thoughts feel real and true and are usually very strong. We believe them because they’ve been with us for a very long time. And yet, they may be stopping us from realizing just how powerful we are in creating our own life.

Just because you think you’re too old for this or for that, doesn’t mean that you are.

Just because you may find something new difficult or uncomfortable to learn, doesn’t mean that you should just not do it.

Just because there are things you’ve missed out on when you were younger, doesn’t mean that you should continue to go without or that you missed your chance.

We listen to thousands of limiting and inhibitory thoughts and then deprive ourselves of truly engaging in life.

We must become more aware of these thoughts in order to transcend them. This means we must stop treating them like they are absolutely true and valid reasons for choosing not to take part in the game of life.

2. Allow Yourself to Want Something

Maybe right now there is nothing you consciously want. That’s okay. I’ve been there too. We bury some things so deep down that we don’t even remember that they exist. Don’t worry about that—it will all come back to you.

When you start to open up and are willing to listen, miraculous things happen. You’ll feel a nudge here or there. Something interesting will catch your eye. You’ll feel a little pull in your stomach telling you that there is something you want.And then it’s all about allowing that to be there without denying it, invalidating it, or pushing it away.Just let it be there and listen.

3.Reassure Yourself

Re-awakening your desires may bring uncomfortable feelings with them. What you want may be shame-bound, and so it might feel difficult or even forbidden and distressing to allow it back into your conscious awareness.Learn to soothe yourself through these difficult feelings should they arise.

They are not a threat. They are simply an internal reaction to breaking the cycle of inhibition. It may feel scary, but it is not wrong to break this cycle. You are doing something good and life-affirming and life-enhancing for yourself.

Talk to yourself in a compassionate, encouraging, and reassuring voice. Make room for whatever feelings arise and calm your nervous system by breathing deeply and slowly. Everything is fine. You are not doing anything wrong. You are safe and you are well on your way out of the prison of inhibition and stepping bravely into the world.

4. Prepare and Plan

Not having tried to proactively make things happen for and by ourselves means that we haven’t had much practice. We might not know yet how to deal with the frustration and disappointment of learning something new and it not turning out how we had hoped it would.

These are skills to develop. It is a natural part of learning, and we need to practice getting through our frustrations and disappointments so that we continue on our journey of making things happen.

We cannot let the discomfort of temporary disappointment and frustration stop us. These are just signs that there are different and better ways of moving toward what we want. They are not signs that we are doing it wrong or that we should give up.

They are signs that we are in the process of trying something different and learning something new. They are evidence that we are proactively taking part in life and growing as a person.

5. Learn New Skills and Take Action

This is the ‘doing it’ part. It’s exciting and scary all at once. But this is where change happens in a visible way. This is the part that’s easily noticeable.

It can also be the part where inhibition might raise its ugly head for one last time before it acknowledges its defeat. Do not give into it! You have worked hard for this moment, so keep going.

If you’ve wanted to learn how to set boundaries , say the words.

If you’ve planned on having a difficult conversation because there is something you just need to get off your chest, have it.

If you’ve planned on leaving your partner, leave.

If you've plan to save, now is the time.

If you've planned to read that book, read.

Whatever it is, take action. You can only start the Ignition by taking a BOLD STEP. Free yourself from all sorts of Inhibitors. Step up and change the narrative.

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