Let’s Talk About It— Day 24 of 30Guests in 30Days

It's Day 24 of Let's Talk About It on DETAILS.

For Gifty, these past several days have been rather challenging. She appears to have lost all of her inner light, and she is unable to pinpoint what is causing her to feel so heavy. She had recently read a post on LinkedIn about Bamidele, a former classmate, who had received a significant prize.

Tolu also informed her about the fully financed scholarship he had received to continue his studies at Harvard. When she felt her cup was full of good news, she received a call from Ifeoma. Ifeoma couldn't stop raving about how quickly her career was progressing. They both graduated from high school in 2015, and she was almost a partner in the business where she worked. She was getting married shortly, and she wanted Gifty to be her maid of honour.Gifty sipped her coffee and looked out the window, wondering why her life had turned out the way it had. Of course, she had a home, a good job, and was content, but there was something lacking. She quickly finished her coffee, grabbed her bag and vehicle keys, and exited the office, headed nowhere in particular.

Her tears welled up and her vision clouded as she drove; she bent sideways to pick up a tissue paper from her purse. She didn't notice the man attempting to cross the street at the time. She slammed on the brakes hard enough to miss the man by a hair's breadth. She sobbed excessively when the automobile came to a standstill, lamenting how dumb she had been. Gifty brushed away her tears. She didn't need anyone to tell her she was hurting herself in this way. She'd decided that this is her life, and it was moving at its own speed. She would do her due diligence, but she would not allow anything take her joy.

In recent times, advocacy on mental health has skyrocketed, so you begin to wonder why people suffer depression and anxiety amongst other things. Could it be that things are not panning out as planned? Could it be that more often than not, the major root cause of mental illness is comparison? This cancer of comparison is eating deep amongst people today. Theodore Roosevelt once said: “Comparison is the thief of joy”.

Because we are gazing straight into someone else's milestone, it is easier to dismiss our own victories. We chose to run another person's race, oblivious to the fact that we are unique and have different goals.

To overcome the "comparison syndrome," you must make a conscious effort to: accept life one day at a time, constantly count your blessings, avoid triggers, filter social media information, and find enjoyment in your progress.

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